Thread to ask a particular poster why he put me on Ignore

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Thread to ask a particular poster why he put me on Ignore

 

Ken Burch Ken Burch's picture

M. Spector, I know that you and I disagree on tactics in American politics, but otherwise we agree much more than not. What have I said that so mortally offended you? As far as I know I never attacked you on a personal level. I publicly apologize if in some way I hurt your feelings or made you feel insulted. That was never my intent.

I'm not calling you out, just want to know if you and I could have some sort of dialogue and talk this out. There's no inherent reason we have to be enemies.

I'm willing to have an agree to disagree thing with you on American politics and have you and I never debate the subject again.

This thread is posted in a spirit of conciliation, so I hope it stays up.

This is the first time somebody's put me on ignore and I'm hoping to learn from this.

Also, in future, could a technical feature be added to Babble so that a poster would get an immediate alert when she or he was placed on ignore, along with an explanation for the placement and a chance for the poster in question to respond or apologize or whatever? It'd help.

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Boom Boom Boom Boom's picture

Isn't there a rule against naming babblers in thread titles?

Ken Burch Ken Burch's picture

Well, I'm not attacking the person, just trying to communicate with him.

I've amended the thread title, just to be on the safe side.

This thread is an attempt to heal a rift, not cause trouble. Please trust me on this.

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Fidel

I'd send him a pm, but I have no inbox. Me an' my big mouth, er crazy fingers

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Ken Burch Ken Burch's picture

That's what I tried to do, and that's how I found out he'd taken the step of putting me on ignore.

It just weirds me out that it came to this. Our exchanges on U.S. presidential politics were heated, but I tried not to attack him on anything like a personal level.

Fidel

He's prolly forgot who's on his filter list, or something. Oi, Spector, what's up? Why so anti-socialist?

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Cueball Cueball's picture

Well I guess if he put you on ignore its because he doesn't want to speak with you personally.

Fidel

He doesn't have to speak. There's no voice connect as far as I can tell. HEY M! What's with the schoolgirl felt up at the prom for the first time act?

Ken Burch Ken Burch's picture

Well, yeah, I got it that he doesn't want to communicate with me, just wondering why.
It's not as though I was personally denigrating to him or anything, at least not intentionally.

Mainly I just wanted to figure out what he thought I said that was "over the line".

Then again, if he doesn't want to respond to this as well, I accept that as his right.

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Cueball Cueball's picture

Back when you had an in-box you put me on ignore Fidel.

Ken Burch Ken Burch's picture

Can somebody buy Fidel a new inbox? I'm sure they've got 'em in bulk at Costco.

Frustrated Mess Frustrated Mess's picture

Does anyone have me on ignore? Anyone? Anyone? Why won't you answer me?

al-Qa'bong

If it'll make you feel any better, Frust, I'll ignore you.

al-Qa'bong

Uhh, starting...now!

Ken Burch Ken Burch's picture

Look FM, the only reason I'm bringing this up is because it's the first time it's happened to me on any message board to my knowledge and I'd like to clear it up and get past it with the person concerned.

This doesn't actually involve you, so I'm not sure why you're mocking me here.

jester

Spector has pouts on occasion but he gets over them in less than a year mostly. Well, except for me but I still like him. [img]biggrin.gif" border="0[/img]

jester

quote:


Originally posted by Ken Burch:
[b]Look FM, the only reason I'm bringing this up is because it's the first time it's happened to me on any message board to my knowledge and I'd like to clear it up and get past it with the person concerned.

This doesn't actually involve you, so I'm not sure why you're mocking me here.[/b]


Yeah, FM don't you dare make a mockery of mockery. Some things are sacred.

Fidel

quote:


Originally posted by Cueball:
[b]Back when you had an in-box you put me on ignore Fidel.[/b]

I've paid you lots of attention since then though. It's when I don't reply. That's when I virtually don't give a darn. You're too grumpy sometimes. [img]biggrin.gif" border="0[/img]

Ken Burch Ken Burch's picture

quote:


Originally posted by jester:
[b]

Yeah, FM don't you dare make a mockery of mockery. Some things are sacred.[/b]


Why do you regard this thread as mockery?
I'm sincerely trying to figure out what I said that was so unforgiveable in Spector's eyes. It's not insecurity, and it's not baiting. And it doesn't merit the hostility and cynicism in that response.

Boom Boom Boom Boom's picture

Why on earth do you need an answer? Why on earth should the babbler in question have to give you an answer? If someone puts me on ignore, big effing deal. Get over it.

jester

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Originally posted by Ken Burch:
[b]

Why do you regard this thread as mockery?
I'm sincerely trying to figure out what I said that was so unforgiveable in Spector's eyes. It's not insecurity, and it's not baiting. And it doesn't merit the hostility and cynicism in that response.[/b]


Sorry, Ken, I wasn't refering to you. In all seriousness, Spector is Spector and he'll get over whatever it was that offended him. Don't sweat it.

Fidel

Now Spector is ignoring EVERYbody. This is an outrage.

jester

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Originally posted by Fidel:
[b]Now Spector is ignoring EVERYbody. This is an outrage.[/b]

I'll send him a PM.

....Oops that won't work [img]biggrin.gif" border="0[/img]

remind remind's picture

Maybe he has everyone on ignore, that would not surprise me. Having said that, having someone on ignore really is a freedom of conscience and privacy thing.

RevolutionPlease RevolutionPlease's picture

quote:


Originally posted by remind:
[b]Maybe he has everyone on ignore, that would not surprise me. Having said that, having someone on ignore really is a freedom of conscience and privacy thing.[/b]

Some sanity prevails.

Ken Burch Ken Burch's picture

Of course I accept that he has the right not to explain. I did him no harm by politely asking, though.

I'll leave it at that.

martin dufresne

How do I get Spector to ignore me?

Fidel

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Originally posted by Ken Burch:
[b]Of course I accept that he has the right not to explain. I did him no harm by politely asking, though.

I'll leave it at that.[/b]


If he's anything like me, he's moody by day and disagreeble at night. I wouldn't pursue the matter either. Typical country people and their country weather. [img]biggrin.gif" border="0[/img]

RevolutionPlease RevolutionPlease's picture

What's the ideal weather for the Revolution?

remind remind's picture

quote:


Originally posted by RevolutionPlease:
[b]What's the ideal weather for the Revolution?[/b]

Slightly cloudy with sunny patches appearing at the correct moment to accentuate God's approval of the revolutionary actions. [img]biggrin.gif" border="0[/img]

RevolutionPlease RevolutionPlease's picture

quote:


Originally posted by remind:
[b]

Slightly cloudy with sunny patches appearing at the correct moment to accentuate God's approval of the revolutionary actions. [img]biggrin.gif" border="0[/img] [/b]


[img]tongue.gif" border="0[/img]

oldgoat

I have a problem with this thread. A person can put anyone they want on their ignore list, and they don't owe anyone a reason why. It means that private communications are unwelcome, and that's it.

Now a thread like this has never really come up before, and nothing in babble policy specifically speaks to it. However, if someone indicates they don't want private communications, then taking it public in the way this thread does smack of stalking and harrassment. It also is clearly about a particular babbler, who has made use of a perfectly legitimate function on babble software, and like I said, doesn't owe anyone a reason why.

Ken,...May the moderators grant you the serenity to accept the things you cannot change; the courage to change the things you can; and the wisdom to know the difference. You may not be able to change this.

I'm closing the thread.

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