As one who embraces feminism, it's tough to reflect on fatherhood. There's the traitorous sense of being preoccupied with a politics of gender identity at the expense of real women (no, not Harper's harpies, actual women). There are the dismal facts: irrefutable statistics about women, poverty and the material sacrifices associated with motherhood and childrearing, in which the term "disproportionately affected" features, well, disproportionately. There is the patriarchy, seemingly very much in control, thank you ma'am, as it cuts funding to yet another women's advocacy group and hounds yet another woman out of politics.