Hi Sasha,

My partner and I have now officially opened our relationship, and at the risk of another Sasha tongue-lashing, I'm coming to you for more guidance: I'm nervous. I'm worried that opening the relationship will kill us.

We're both very stable, self-aware, self-possessed people, and neither of us has ever been jealous or mistrustful of the other. We adore each other, and now here I am throwing sticks into the machinery.

Dear Sasha,

I recently started working in a massage parlour that features a room with a jacuzzi in it. It's rare that clients choose this feature, but when they do we are of course expected to enjoy it naked together in fairly close proximity.

I don't offer complete service and am careful to keep my skin-to-skin contact genital-free.

I'm wondering what other precautions I should be taking to avoid the transmission of STIs through this activity. I had the impression that hot-tub transmission was a myth, but my research is turning up mixed. We don't chlorinate. Should we?

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