Ah, “maintenance sex.” That good old fashioned idea that we are obligated to satisfy our partner’s sexual desires lest they leave us or cheat on us.

Tracy Moore wrote about it for Jezebel on Monday, arguing that, eventually, in all relationships, there are going to be times when you’re having sex, not because you want to, but for the “good of the relationship.”

If you’re in a relationship in which you agree the sex matters, eventually you will have to expend more effort to have the sex you both agree should happen. Sex drives will not always magically align. When they don’t align, somebody will be horny and the other somebody will not. Then what?

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Justin Bieber was photographed leaving a Brazilian brothel last weekend. He was covered in bedsheets, which leads us to believe that buying sex still isn’t seen as a completely acceptable pass time (though our friends on team “sex work is work” are doing their very best to change that).

I originally wrote and published this post in 2011, when I lived in Berlin. It quickly went viral among the queer community and caused a lot of outrage and sparked some very fruitful discussions at festivals and the like. Now, two years later, I still stand by my decision to be single. Although I am now in a relationship, deciding to be single for two years was one of the most caring things I have done for myself in my life. It’s my hope that people reading this article will feel empowered to make the sexual choices that are right for them.

On Monday, British Prime Minster David Cameron announced that Internet service providers in the U.K. would be required to filter out online porn as part of several new rules to come into effect by the end of the year. Adults will still have the ability to opt in to view porn, but filtering will be the "unavoidable choice" default that ISPs will need to provide. The same day, Twitter announced that it would be implementing a tagging system to fight porn, apparently at the British government's urging.