Dear Sasha,
I am 40, have been divorced for a few years and, apart from a LDR with a boy who is 25 that ended a year ago, have been very skittish about entering the dating world. I have zero interest in having a serious boyfriend, but as soon as I start thinking about one-night stands or FWB, all I can think about is how guys are walking disease factories who can't be trusted to tell the truth about being disease-free, and I chicken out of trying to mack on anyone.
As a result, I've had zero action for a year and a half.
![Nico Little](http://rabble.ca/sites/rabble/files/imagecache/thumbnail/category_pictures/Photo 93_0.jpg "Nico Little is an Anglo-Albertan who decamped to Montreal sometime in the late nineties "to learn French and be gay." He then moved to Ottawa, Ontario, where he worked as an HIV outreach worker in bathhouses, bars and online chat rooms for several years. In 2008 Nico helped found POWER (Prostitutes of Ottawa-Gatineau Work Educate and Resist), an organization of current and former sex workers advocating for recognition of their labour, Charter and human rights. Nicholas now lives in London, U.K. You can follow his blog, Ickaprick & Ironpussy, at www.ickaprick.com. He is also a regular contributor to the Montreal-based magazine No More Potlucks.")