Dating Advice for Activists
This column is inspired by the blog post "F*cking While Feminist" by Jaclyn Friedman published March 2010.
It's also inspired by the last six months I've spent, newly single and out in the dating world.
As any single/unattached/non-monogamous progressive will tell you, especially ones who are over 35 or 40, dating is already a minefield of problems, issues and baggage. We will likely have at least one ex-partner/husband/wife/significant other; one or more child or children/step-children, and lots of bad dating stories. While they make great party conversations, if one is Progressive While Single (PWS) and looking for a partner, it can be scary out there.
And unless you meet someone at an activist gathering, community organizing meeting, Sarah McLachlan concert or in a jail cell in the Eastern Avenue make-shift detention centre (it's really impossible to joke about the human and civil rights violations in Toronto the weekend of June 25 to 27, but I thought I'd give it a try), chances are you might not know their politics, and this will have to be something to talk about, explain, extrapolate on and negotiate.
And I don't think any of that is either charming or sexy.