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Men's involvement with feminism

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martin dufresne
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Let's compromise and agree that men have no class to speak of, OK?

M. Spector
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How about we compromise and avoid blanket generalizations about men altogether, OK?

martin dufresne
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Wouldn't that be one?

martin dufresne
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Always seeking common ground, I looked for a few linguistic alternatives to « class » for depicting men as a group.

One can speak of a(n)…

Ambush (of presidents)
Army (of Ones)
Bale (of the full)
Band (of four skins)
Barren (but warrin')
Bed (of claimants)
Bevy (of heavies)
Bloat (of boasters)
Brood (of brooders)
Business (of owners)
Cast(e)(aways)
Catch (whatever)
Charm (of oblivion)
Clamour (of clams)
Cloud of (clout)
Clutch (of gropers)
Clutter (of cleanliness-challenged)
Colony (of colonizers)
Company (of keepers)
Covey (of coveters)
Cowardice (of cowhands)
Crash (of the rash)
Cry (of the self-absorbed)
Culture (as of bacteriae)
Dazzle (of light-weights)
Descent (of flashers)
Down (of downers)
Drift (of paddle-deprived)
Drove (of road-ragers)
Dule (of dudes)
Family (of Man)
Flight (of male plight)
Float (but barely)
Flock (of pluck)
Gaggle (of guys)
Gam (of gamers)
Gang (of bangers)
Gulp (of admission)
Harras (of stalkers)
Herd (of the heard)
Hive (of hims)
Horde (of hors-d'oeuvre)
Hover (of tops)
Huddle (of hoods)
Husk (of hunks)
Implausibility (of import)
Kettle (of humdrum)
Knot (of dont’s)
Labour (of misconceptions)
Leap (of social lepers)
Leash (of lechery)
Litter (of homeowners)
Mischief (of leaders)
Mob (of family linchpins)
Murder (of Honour)
Muster (of passers)
Mustering (of bluster)
Mute (of the moot)
Nest (of exactors)
Nye (of nay-sayers)
Obstinacy (of obdurates)
Pace (of pacers)
Pack (of Six)
Parliament (of course)
Peep (of peers)
Pitying (of SNAGs)
Plague (of low-costs)
Pod (of putzes)
Pride (of self-lionizers)
Quiver (of indignation)
Rafter (of drifters)
Rag (of the rich)
Richness (of pretense)
Romp (of roomers)
Run (of shits)
School (of underachievers)
Shrewdness (of primates)
Skein (of the skittish)
Skulk (too easy)
Smack (of harassers)
Sord (of every sort)
Sounder (of warnings)
Stud (of wannabes)
Swarm (of swarth)
Swift (of kickers-when-she’s-down)
Team (of terminators)
Tiding (of stuff ahead)
Tower (of strength – and I’d walk out the door)
Troop (of trophy hunters)
Troubling (of water)
Unkindness (of the craven)
Weyr (of weirdos)
Zeal (of male fundamentalists)

Help from Group names


M. Spector
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Sadly, you have clearly abandoned your own thread as a vehicle for serious discussion.

martin dufresne
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Rats!
(Not an addition.)

CMOT Dibbler
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I think it is possible to say that many men are opposed to feminism, that a lot of men are mysoginist(just as some women are) and that our culture, such as it is, treats women quite badly.
That said, I don't think that you can generalize about the sexual politics of every Canadian man.(after all, if we are to lump this nation's men into a single, monolithic group, male feminists are in it too).

Human beings are complex, making blanket statements about entire groups of them is never wise.

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martin dufresne
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Generalizations are essential to analysis. They don't have to lead to cookie-cutter monolithic pictures of people; they rather help us understand critical differences of position, standpoint, tactics between men and women, culturally constructed as we are.
Early feminists such as Virginia Woolf and Mary Ellman have made the point that women had always been generalized about by male writers, but men remained immune from such impudence unless the generalization was affirming "male qualities." In "Sexual politics", Kate Millett pointed out how male writers such as D.H. Lawrence, Henry Miller and Norman Mailer had built a male mythology based on such flattering generalizations. Neo-Jungians like Robert Bly and Guy Corneau still sucker people along with that self-aggrandizing talk.
The rub is when generalizations are less flattering: women have always been getting it in the teeth, but men are, somehow, spared such indignities. In "Pornography: Men Possessing Women", Dworkin argues that one of the tenets of male power is that of naming. Maintaining men's good name - or turning critiques of men into jokes, e.g. Tim Allen's "Men are pigs" comedy routine - is one the attendant functions. Another tack is to try an use generalization to put men above critique and change ("Men Are The Way They Are" - Warren Farrell, "Men Are From Mars" - John Gray).
Do I believe that pro-feminists are included by generalizations about maleness in our culture? You bet I do. Indeed, this gives us entitlement and motivation to speak out about this male culture which, despite its variations among various sub-groups of men, retains general characteristics that spell male entitlement, including that not to be pejoratively generalized about...

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M. Spector
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Translation: Broad over-generalizations about women are bad; broad over-generalizations about men are "essential to analysis".

martin dufresne
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It's even simpler than that: "broad over-generalizations are bad"... isn't tautology reassuring?

CMOT Dibbler
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What!? I thought you said that generalizations were essential to analysis?

CMOT Dibbler
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quote: They don't have to lead to cookie-cutter monolithic pictures of people; they rather help us understand critical differences of position, standpoint, tactics between men and women, culturally constructed as we are.

But that's what a generalization is. Whenever we generalize,(at least in terms of sociological analysis)
we make blanket statements about groups of people,
and whenever we make a blanket statement
about a group,
we most often wind up stereotyping , which is very bad. We should stop making sociological generalizations,
although I'm not sure if it's possible to do that.

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quote: You bet I do. Indeed, this gives us entitlement and motivation to speak out about this male culture which, despite its variations among various sub-groups of men, retains general characteristics that spell male entitlement, including that not to be pejoratively generalized about...

Okay Martin, you freely admit that male feninists can be flawed, but to the best of knowledge you have NEVER admitted to being flawed or subconciously patrarchal.
Instead you set up a huge false dicotomy in which you are a man of honor in a den of theives(much like Al Pachino in Surpaco) and judge all the other men in Canada as bastards, while you strut and preen like like some latently Jansenist peekock, blissfully unaware of your own shortcomings.
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quote: Sadly, you have clearly abandoned your own thread as a vehicle for serious discussion.

And that would be your fault.


martin dufresne
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Yes, take note, CMOT Dibbler, contrary to the picture you paint, I often undercut any "authority" with humour (a feminine trait according to some). And actually, if you read back posts of mine, you will find that I just as often voice critical statements about men in the first person plural. Still, I acknowledge that I am easily dismissed as sounding holier than thou, as if to point out a problem is to necessarily be above it. I am very flawed in a number of ways (my old sig line was an admission of procrastination! -, but how often do these threads wax confessional for us to air such dirty linen? I find it more useful to try and voice accurate critiques and to clarify, if need be, that in no way am I suggesting that I have always managed to live by them or do so today.
Re: generalizations, I think you will find that the scientific method and indeed any knowledge cannot exist without them and that there are multiple ways to avoid having them devolve to mere caricatures.

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CMOT Dibbler
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quote: ... and that there are multiple ways to avoid having them devolve to mere caricatures.

How?

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martin dufresne
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OK, here are a few ideas.
1) Acknowledging change. A generality or pattern you observe in a category of folks or things justifies generalizing, but that doesn't mean the pattern is static, or unamenable to change through action, awareness, input, natural evolution, resistance, people wanting to break free of the pattern, our improving the observation, etc.
2) Acknowledging fine structure. Within a general pattern, there may be any number of variations. The general pattern exists because of certain determinants and historical influences, but it plays out in variants, depending on specific conditions, histories, observers, other determinants. Like any picture, it is read one way at a certain distance and produces other pictures at other distances. Each pattern is no less real.
3) Acknowledging the envelope. Any generality is only true within a certain realm. Outside of that envelope, it isn't valid. So time and space act as limits to the scope of each generality, keeping generalization honest and away from any essentialist interpretation.
4) Exceptions. Even within the envelope, generalities often have exceptions and contrary forces that help us think dialectically not only about the patterns observed but about what subverts them and our perspective, the power of the disempowered, for instance.
5) Occam's razor. This philosophical principle reminds us that a generality is simply the most economical solution to a problem, the one with the least unnnecessary assumptions. Yet, we know through mathematics that any problem has an almost infinite number of solutions. ("That object speedingtoward me with 'Greyhound' on the front may be trouble, but it may just be a clever Martian trying to fool me.") So generalization does not have to tie our hands as would a stereotype or a stifling "blanket". It's simply a simple but important rational first step to inquiry (and sometimes survival).
What do you think? Do you find that using generalization is useful in your life and activist concerns, given what you know, even if you keep trying to refine that process?

WendyL
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Yesterday's shift at work was busy so I only got to listen to about half the interview. That being said, I think you did a fine job Martin.

I don't agree that Martin spoke too much or dominated a feminist conversation. He was the interview subject. I dislike when the interviewer(s) dominates the conversation and we don't get to hear what the interviewee has to say. The topic of the interview was men's involvement with feminism from a pro-feminist man's perspective. That's what we got. As well, while there was some laughing, it was appropriate to the quality of community radio/cable shows and it was appropriate to the conversation. I think the use of the word 'giggling' as a descriptor has provided an incorrect framing of this issue. As for the issues, there were many discussed and I would like the time to listen to the rest of the interview before commenting.

Why is this thread now so far off the topic of men's involvement with feminism? Personally, I am not looking for an answer to this question.


CMOT Dibbler
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Bump!

martin dufresne
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For people who have the interest and the time to dig in, here is an exceptionally no-B.S. essay by Australian activist Bob Pease: 'Engaging Men in Men's Violence Prevention: Exploring the Tensions, Dilemmas and Possibilities', available to download on the website of the Australian Domestic and Family Violence Clearinghouse.
.pdf version
.rtf version

quote:Extracts: The aim of the paper is to encourage participants in such programs to critically reflect upon their policies, conceptual frameworks and practices in light of the issues raised. I am hesitant about raising some of these questions because I know that men’s involvement in this work is still relatively rare. However, I think that naming the dangers and potential misappropriations of this work is part of the process of improving and strengthening such projects.

Thus, while I support the involvement of men in violence prevention, I believe that particular conditions need to be met and that specific principles need to be adopted to address the potential problems associated with such involvement. Furthermore, I believe that the theoretical premises underpinning men’s violence prevention need to be based upon both feminist theory and the critical scholarship on men and masculinities. I further emphasise that we should be careful not to promise too much from men’s involvement and should be alert to the pressures for cooption that such involvement can elicit.
(...)The White Ribbon Campaign was established by a group of men in Canada in 1991, on the second anniversary of a massacre of fourteen women in Montreal by a lone gunman. The White Ribbon Campaign encourages non-violent men to wear white ribbons as an expression of their public opposition to men’s violence. In 2003, the Australian office of the United Nations Development Fund for Women, UNIFEM, partnered with men and men's organisations to make this a national campaign in Australia. It is a good example of a community-based intervention by men, which is now supported by federal government funding and involves full-time salaried program managers and coordinators. With the shift to government funding, however, there appears to be a diminishing focus on men’s responsibility both in the organising of the campaign and in the wearing of the ribbons. Women are often the key organisers and the focus has now shifted to encouraging ‘everyone’ to wear ribbons. While this could be seen as an appropriate alliance between feminist women and profeminist men, it can also undercut the message of men’s responsibility for violence. In Canada, the White Ribbon Campaign has been criticised for colonising and appropriating women’s experiences (Spark 1994; Goldrick-Jones 2004), and some feminists have raised concerns about re-centring men in such anti-violence work (Marchese 2008).(...)

The paper runs thirty pages but is really worth the read to get beyond the too-common cooptation of honest efforts by a patriarchal establishment.

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martin dufresne
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Something else by Pease and a colleague, demonstrating that he's not just blowing smoke...
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Refugee Settlement, Safety & Wellbeing: exploring domestic & family violence in refugee communities, by Susan Rees & Bob Pease (2006) for Immigrant Women's Domestic Violence Service, 292 Wellington Street, Collingwood 3066, Victoria, AUSTRALIA, dvirc@dvirc.org.au, www.dvirc.org.au

A study that examines cultural, psychosocial and economic factors in the safety & wellbeing of refugee families experiencing domestic & family violence. This study identifies the vulnerabilities specific to immigrant & refugee women.

Consultations with different communities resulted in a recommendation for using a multi-level framework to illustrate violence prevention strategies in partnership with refugee communities.


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