#BeenRapedNeverReported: I just did it.
When I read that Jian Ghomeshi had been fired, initially, I was shocked because I deeply respected his work. Then I read his statement on Facebook and something didn't seem right.
The repeated use of the words, "it was consensual" raised a red flag for me. Abusers are masters when it comes to explaining their actions as a misunderstanding: it was consensual; it only happened once; she seemed to like it; she never said no; I only gave her what she was asking, and on and on.
Related rabble.ca story:
Issues of violence against women have been getting a lot more attention in the news than usual in the past few weeks. Amidst these conversations, you sometimes hear reference to survivors as 'educated' or a 'public figure'. The media emphasis on the class standing of survivors implies that certain lives and stories of violence are more 'believable' (just barely) -- while others can be more easily dismissed.