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XXY: An intimate and moving drama about an intersex teenager named Alex who has been raised as a girl but now, at the age of fifteen, has to decide which gender they actually want to choose to live as, or whether that's even a choice they necessarily have to make. XXY offers a story about the dignity and strength of youth. Set by the seas of Uruguay, the film strays from medical-realism and instead offers poetry and clumsiness to explore the story of Alex's body, sexuality and self-awareness. Beautiful. Tough. Powerful. An Argentine film.
Director: Lucía Puenzo
Rated: unrated (2008) 86 mins.
language:Spanish with English subtitles
This week on Not Rex, Shawn Syms argues: Sexually active people with HIV are not intrinsically devious and dangerous. No more so than all redheads are. Or any other definable group.
Has a person with HIV ever deliberately deceived someone about their status and intentionally, maliciously passed on the virus? Yes. But in Canada, the law casts the net far, far wider than that, locking up people with HIV who've never harmed anyone.
I am 18 years old and still a virgin. I realize there are a lot of people older then me who are still virgins, but it is still quite hard for me to handle the pressure. I do believe I am ready; I am just mostly scared of the pain.
That's because it hurts me to even put a tampon in. Is there anything I can do to prepare myself? Or at least make it hurt less when the time comes? I also have never had an orgasm, so I wonder if there's something weird about that. I often engage in other sexual activities, but never the real thing, and I usually get bored after a while because it never feels that great. Could you please tell me what is wrong with me?
Confused and Worried
I'm a 50-year-old (male) virgin. I have identified since my early 30s as gay, but even as a gay male, I've never been in a serious intimate relationship, because I've never sufficiently worked through my fears about being sexually intimate with a woman. While I assume all (or almost all) gay men have no sexual interest in women, I do have the interest to explore, but have been too scared to do so all my life.
I am a middle-aged, divorced environment writer with an affectionate eye on a much younger woman.
My friends consider me polite, outspokenly critical and a fit, reasonably good-looking man. My potential love interest, who is unattached, appreciates and even sought my mature attention to her singular life and talents as yoga teacher and videographer.
We met in a coffee shop, and superficially we have much in common. Acting, instinctively, I crave caring and sharing, and even intimacy, were her mood ever to become affirmative. I cannot yet intuit whether or not to pursue closeness with this tantalizing creature across a complex age gap.
Editor's Note: This column is the second of a two-part investigation on dating for progressives. Read the first part here.
Yes, many cool lefties are meeting online. It's not just for "losers" anymore. My own past few significant relationships of two years or longer in duration (as well as other less-significant relationships) were all from various online dating sites. The easy part is that you can already know a bit about the person beforehand, and have a sense of areas in which you will find common ground, if they answered the questions on favourite music genre and movies, etc.
I was wondering if you have any information on sex dolls. I am a person with no time at all for a serious relationship. I want to know about the sensation. I mean, how different could it be? We're talking like, a $200 doll. I need to know if it's a good buy.
Mr. Need To Know
I'm going to suggest you visit jackinworld.com, which offers intriguing tips on a variety of masturbation techniques and has message boards where you can ask others about their experiences with sex dolls and/or genital stimulators/simulators.
What do most of the women you know think about bisexual/gay males? Are they turned on by the thought of watching a man fellating another man, or revolted? Would they like to part of a three-way where the men have contact with one another? You know how most males would love to see two women having sex with each other? I'm wondering if women feel the same about seeing two males together sexually.