Dear Sasha,

What do most of the women you know think about bisexual/gay males? Are they turned on by the thought of watching a man fellating another man, or revolted? Would they like to part of a three-way where the men have contact with one another? You know how most males would love to see two women having sex with each other? I'm wondering if women feel the same about seeing two males together sexually.

Alex

Dear Sasha,

I'm in love with impossible people. I always find myself chasing the people who aren't interested. I've missed a lot of good relationships and hurt a lot of really good people because of this.

I had a girlfriend who was really loving to me, but I lost interest and started obsessing over a guy who was clearly unavailable. It destroyed her, not only because I wanted to be with a man (how could she compete with that?), but also because I started to be a real bitch to her. Nothing she did was ever good enough, and eventually I dumped her. I really broke her heart.

Dear Sasha,

I have the unfortunate enjoyment of a very painful fetish. I enjoy being kicked/kneed/otherwise struck in the groin by women whom I find attractive. I don't mean CBT, with its overly gentle flicks and pokes. I mean doubled over or down on my knees and/or making funny noises because some hot thang let loose on my manhood.

If she does it in the new shoes we picked out together, all the better.

Dear Sasha,

I was in a relationship with the first girl I slept with for years, so even though I've had a pretty active sex life, I never had to wear a condom.

Since being dumped, I've had close to no sex, and the only time I did, even though it was pretty fun for everyone (she was great, I was great, it was great), I realized how different, not as fulfilling, it is with a condom on. I felt little down there, felt disconnected and handicapped in my ability to provide pleasure, as I can now only feel what I'm doing well or not with/to her by sight and sound. I have this image of a massage therapist working with anesthetized hands.