Sexual Assault By Stealth

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Sexual Assault By Stealth

Condom removal without consent is a form of assault, according to advocates:

Haley is referring to "stealthing," the secretive and non-consensual removal of a condom during otherwise consensual intercourse. (CBC has agreed to not publish Haley's full name as well as those of the other women who spoke about the practice.)

Not everyone considers stealthing akin to rape, she says.

Haley said she had consented to protected sex with a man she knew and trusted. But after a few minutes, she noticed something amiss.

"I looked down at one point, and [the condom] just wasn't there," she said. "It was really scary."

After confronting the man and speaking with friends who had the same experience with him, she says she realized he'd removed the condom intentionally.

"With other people, he would find sneaky ways to take it off," Haley said. "[He would] stop having intercourse and chat for a second, then … start again and it wouldn't be on."

Just what on earth is wrong with peole?


Interesting case out of BC that deals with this issue:


B.C.'s appeal court has ordered a new trial for a man acquitted of sexual assault after he allegedly reneged on a promise to wear a condom during sex.

In a case that explores the boundaries and definitions of sexual activity and consent, the three appeal court judges all reached the same conclusion — while apparently disagreeing with each other on exactly why.

Two of the judges agreed that sex without a condom is a fundamentally different activity — legally — from sex with a condom. 

And one of those judges then switched sides to join the dissenting judge in finding there was evidence the accused had defrauded the alleged victim into having sex with him.

Either way, Ross McKenzie Kirkpatrick faces another trial.


Either you both (or however many of you there are) both agree on how it is to be done (with safe woods if necessary) or it is not, in any way consensual. Full stop


I know the guy in this case. He always just does whatever he wants and hopes for no consquences after. He strictly has his own interests in mind. Hope they find him guilty this time


BC woman advocating for education for RCMP on this topic:


On paper, Anna DiBella's experience seems like a victory. She reported a sexual assault to police. Her alleged perpetrator now faces charges.

But DiBella said she struggled for weeks to convince the RCMP to investigate and charge a man for taking off a condom during sex without her knowledge. It was a process, she said, that left her feeling vulnerable all over again.

"I was feeling worse than I had just being a sexual assault victim at this point, because I felt very unprotected. Like, there's been a crime committed against me," she said.

"If someone's broken a law, why does no one care? And I felt ... why are they empowering this guy?"


DiBella reported the incident to the RCMP the day after. Unwilling to let police show up at her home when her two small children were there, she made an appointment to give her statement at the station.

Before that happened, she said, she received a call from the investigating officer.

"He said, 'What exactly are you hoping to get from the police regarding this incident?' So I said, 'To investigate if there's a crime and, you know, bring it forward to my full rights under the law. And then he said, 'Well, you know, you consented to sex, so there's no rape or crime,'" said DiBella.

"And then he just said, 'Well, the problem is there's no forced sex.' And I said, 'No, there was forced sex, I was forced to have sex without a condom. I had no say in the matter.'"

DiBella said that exchange marked the beginning of her fight to get her case taken seriously. She began calling the detachment almost every day, asking why her case wasn't being investigated.

She said that a few weeks later, after speaking to multiple officers, she was told a warrant was out for the man's arrest.