It Gets Better/Make it Better

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It Gets Better/Make it Better

Wow, I can't believe there isn't a thread on this yet.

Dan Savage, well-known writer and sex-advice columnist, and his partner Terry, start a project aimed at supporting young LGBTQ teens, in the wake of the recent suicides by teens in the US due to homophobic bullying.

Dan and Terry

UC's It Gets Better video


There have also been some  critiques of the original video, which emphasizes that after high school things get better, and to wait it out. But since not everyone can go away to college/university, or wants to, or is white and middle class, it's not always a solution.


Make it Better

I saw the original video after an "It Gets Better" search. The two teens are amazing, and they talk about action that can be done right now, for teens, and makes my heart warm to see them reject the idea of simply waiting for life to improve.

Columnist Dan Savage launched "It Gets Better," a video message in response to recent youth suicides to tell LGBT youth that life gets better after high school. The Make It Better Project takes this one step further, giving youth the tools they need to make their lives better now.

We aren't waiting until high school is over for our lives to get better... We are taking action now! Join us!

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bagkitty bagkitty's picture

Maysie wrote:

Wow, I can't believe there isn't a thread on this yet.




What was it that Uncle Joe used to say about quantity having a quality all of its own? Can I play with that a little and suggest a lack of quantity (or coverage) has a quality all of its own?

Or, as I said in a related context:

bagkitty wrote:

a) How Obamaesque

b) Conscription inclusion if necessary, but not necessarily conscription inclusion

c) Line for the lost and found department starts over there.... no, further back, way over there... keep going, we will let you know when you get there

d) My dog ate my homework

[hmmm, is it really kosher to quote yourself?]

Until such time as the editorial board at rabble proper starts making coverage of LGBT issues (in general), including the appallingly high suicide rate of LGBT youth (to be specific), a priority (and a single guest spot on Not Rex speaks volumes about the quanity of coverage of the specific issue the "It Gets Better" campaign addresses), I see little reason to be particularly surprised (or express disbelief) about the babble echo chamber not talking about it.

[wave out to CMOT Dibbler who has linked to "It Gets Better" videos in the Youtube goodies threads he keeps going]





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bagkitty, I agree with you, except for the nastiness. If you have a story or opinion piece to pitch to rabble, send Cathryn Atkinson ('s editor) an email at cathryn(at)rabble(dot)ca.

As for babble, it is what we bring to it. In many ways it reflects who posts here.

Many times, threads on social issues / social realities outside the mainstream rise to the lowest level because of that. It sucks.



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This is definitely one of those "I am sorry you were offended" apologies, rather than one of the "I am sorry I offended you" ones. Right up front I am quite willing to acknowledge that you were the unfortunate "victim of opportunity", because I seized on only a part of what you said to make my point (one you characterize as being delivered in a nasty fashion) about the institutional/systemic blindness about LGBT issues at rabble and babble.

If it is any consolation at all, there is truly nothing personal about it, if anyone else had raised the same point about being surprised, I would have probably jumped up and down on their head too -- (okay, definitely small consolation, nobody likes being told they were collateral damage). In so far as I feel any need to defend my posting, I did try to direct my ire at the editorial board, not your loveable self.



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This is reteaching gender and sexuality.

I got this off Maysie's facebook wall and it was awesome.

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Glee: On My Way

A show in 2012 with a large teen audience and a proportionately large gay audience will find itself dealing with the issue of gay teenagers generally and anti-gay bullying specifically at some point. We would have expected no less from Glee and we support the show’s efforts to consider the lives of young gays and help educate other people as to what those lives are really like. But – and we are hoping our brothers of a certain age will back us up here – there comes a point when the effort to educate and be respectful of a group of disenfranchised people tips over into inadvertently redefining them in a new way: victim.

Remember, my brothers? Remember that ten-year period when the mass media definition of “gay man” was “noble, diseased victim?” Is this new trope of gays as noble, weepy, child victims really a step in the right direction? Because just as in the eighties and nineties, when the majority of gay men were not dying of AIDS; the majority of young gay people today are doing relatively okay for themselves. Does this mean there’s no problem to be addressed? Of course not. As we said, we support the show’s efforts, but THREE painful coming out stories in little over a year, each one progressively more dramatic than the next (Kurt: full love and support from all of creation; Santana: public humiliation and estrangement from family members; Dave: suicide attempt) is overkill of the worst degree. And by making each story progressively more damaging to the person who comes out, what the hell is the message they’re trying to send anyway?

And since we’re stepping in it, we may as well grind our feet into the mess a little: kids only get so much out of “It Gets Better.” You know why? Kids, by their very natures, are not forward-looking; everything is RIGHT NOW and of the HIGHEST IMPORTANCE. We can’t think of any message from an adult more condescending to a teenager than “Shh. It’s okay. Just dream of ten years from now.” Especially since the message of “It Gets Better” pretty much accepts anti-gay bullying as an inevitability; something for the kid to just hunker down and get through. In other words: the message of “It Gets Better,” whether it intends it or not (and obviously, it didn’t) is that the victims of anti-gay bullying have to do the work of dealing with it, but no one else does. “You’re on your own, kid. Chin up. The good news is, you might be happy in a decade.”


I agree with many of the critiques of the It Gets Better campaign, but still see this as a positive development:

[url=]From the San Francisco 49ers: It Gets Better[/url]