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Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture
Girlz wanting Babies

yo can somebody really explain to me why girls my age are wanting babies? Like not no accidentdal shit but wanting to be baby mamaz n shit. Yall know what Im talking about if u dont plz DO NOT come here and derail this.

 

I already have a idea of who could proly give me a str8 answer and u know I jus wanna know cuz Im the one dealing with this shit so.. yea

 

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

like adding onwus craccin with that. I had girls talking to me bout they wanna have my baby or bringing up babies wit that look in their eye. Like girls saying to each other how they would be a better baby mama then them.

Where that come from cuzz like me n bare manz my age we dont even want no relationship b n girls my age want babies.

Like u dont even see girls who 18-20 or bit older on that tip that u talk to n yet girls who 15 16 want kids? Yo does anybody know how in a 2 year difference makes that? Or is it just who ur talking to and itz all around that stupidness.

like reallyy wtff

 

 lol like manz have had girls poke holes in condoms, or pour it in after taking it out the trash if it in their room

 

n this the next generation cycle continues

Maysie Maysie's picture

Hey Rexdale_Punjabi, not sure if you meant me, but I wanted to share what I know about your question.

Some background info. For about 5 years when I was in my 20s I worked in a group home for young women. They were from many different backgrounds and circumstances, including CAS, had been living on the streets, from psychiatric institutions, or from their family home.

A number of them talked about how great it would be to be pregnant, and talked to us, the staff, fairly openly about what their reasons were.

Because they were "in love" with some guy, and he would then be forever needing to pay them attention

Because a baby will give them unconditional love

Because they needed to feel useful and needed

Because it would be a way to be a grown up and be taken seriously

I'm sure there were more reasons that I don't remember. And while each young woman did sincerely believe whatever it was about getting pregnant, it was all based in not helpful stuff from the media, their friends (no internet back then lol) and of course, their boyfriends. Some boyfriends used the line of "I want you to get pregnant, we can be a family" in order to urge the young women to have sex with them. It was very discouraging to say the least.

And all this despite the fact that for some of them their own mothers had become pregnant and had begun having babies at age 16 or 17, and knowing how hard it is to grow up with a single mom, given the lack of supports that are out there, including affordable housing and access to education. What the young women I worked with all had in common was a need to be loved, and a need to be loved for who they were. One of the most significant parts of my job was to help them build internal resources and strength. What are their interests, what do they like doing that's not about boys or sex but about them? I'd say this is a journey that most women, young or otherwise, need to do, for all of our lives.

Rexdale, there's no simple answer to your question. The world out there leaves very few options for young women (and young men of course) regarding how to think of themselves as strong, kind and compassionate people, and how to interact with the world on such terms, including relationships, but not only that.

So at the ground level what we did was talk about SAFE SEX and BIRTH CONTROL at the very least. Getting pleasure from sex, not just giving it, was another. Building self-esteem and all the other parts I mentioned took usually far more time than we had to be with them.

And on the personal side, as someone who used to be a teenaged girl, although I never wanted to have a baby, I was very much wanting and needing that "male gaze" and attention on me, to validate me. Lucky for me I was a nerd in school, I guess. And then I found feminism. Tongue out

I hope you find this helpful.

 

remind remind's picture

Stop having sex with 15 and 16 years olds then, as popular culture and hormones are fueling the fire, and when combined with a lack of frontal lobe growth, you get children wanting to have children, withoput any concept of what it will actually mean to their lives.

Lard Tunderin Jeezus Lard Tunderin Jeezus's picture

Hey, R_P.

I knew you were young, but I didn't quite realize how young. That's probably a sign that you're pretty together for your age, even if you've still got a lot to sort out.

Maysie Maysie's picture

Rexdale, you forgot it because it's not the life you live everyday, as a young man. Young women have very different realities and I think you are getting to understand that more and more.

And can you please edit the word "retarded" out of post #4? Thanks.

remind's advice is right on.

There are lots of ways to be sexual, by the way, that don't involve any risk of pregnancy. Again remembering the "getting and giving pleasure" piece I said above.

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

im 15 goin 16 in 3 weeks tho Tongue out

 

I can jus talk to older gz cuz I can lie bout my age

 

but yea u 2 were 2 of the ppl who I had in mind for actualyl saying something important lol

 

but yea maysie honestly how could I even forget that u know I feel stupid cuz I knew that shit when i was like 11 or 12 lol they used to talk about it but I never thought about it recently no lies.

 

Also then another part would be like a lot of times girls wil have sex and then be labled some shit and bare manz wont want to have a relationship with them just u know hit it n quit it and they want someone who loves them lke u said so a baby part of that.

 

ppl dont realize it cuz all the hood girls act out n shit but inside they hurtin u know.

 

edit - also im chopped right now so I guess I wasnt thinking about that but I proly wouldnt have thought of it anyway still.

 

edit - yo or manz aint havin no bouts of depression cuz ur ignoring reality a li? Like stayin round gz, bud n tingz but I guess itz the summer time thats chill jus cant do that when school starts if I did that would be ignoring reality lol just cuz then ur ignoring that ur not going nowhere. proly a couple months bacc I might have gotten this without asking still.

 

w.e lol fucc it I jus wanna make money, live n beat a lotta dimes.

 

Like u cant even just live therez always drama or some shit it never stops lol

Jingles

My advice to any young man: GET FIXED, ASAP!

Never need worry about "accidents" again. As for someday wanting children, the orphanariums are full of unwanted DNA.

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Maysie wrote:

Rexdale, you forgot it because it's not the life you live everyday, as a young man. Young women have very different realities and I think you are getting to understand that more and more.

And can you please edit the word "retarded" out of post #4? Thanks.

remind's advice is right on.

There are lots of ways to be sexual, by the way, that don't involve any risk of pregnancy. Again remembering the "getting and giving pleasure" piece I said above.

ye very differnet still but ill do both still my age n older.

 

N yo IM NOT EATING get outtaaa here. yo I know how to make girls cum but my mouth aint part of that. Fucc that

 

and beating it is getting and giving pleasure. fingering is giving. Brains is getting. there u go Smile

 

like I wanna figure out a way so that u can go to sleep without rolling over or w.e so g liez on top n yall jus go to sleep while u in her so u wake up like that lol. Fucc a risk of pregnancy u gotta be in it to win it lol

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Jingles wrote:

My advice to any young man: GET FIXED, ASAP!

Never need worry about "accidents" again. As for someday wanting children, the orphanariums are full of unwanted DNA.

no....

 

edit - bare girls would also look at u weird like itz weird ppl dont wanna have kids but if sum1 says o I cant have kids they look at that person like wtf? why would u a surgery n do that. Bun that rubbers or pullin out is good

Papal Bull

Rexdale_Punjabi wrote:

N yo IM NOT EATING get outtaaa here. yo I know how to make girls cum but my mouth aint part of that. Fucc that

 

Wha? Why not. Females seem to 'dig' males that actually are out for her pleasure as well as his own, and besides, your tongue is a far more malleable tool than one would expect it to be. Not only can you use it to say the right things, you can use it to DO the right things...if you know what I mean.

Maysie Maysie's picture

Rexdale, google "Dan Savage". He says if anyone doesn't give oral, they don't deserve to receive it. He's right.

Jingles

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no....

Why not? Is your DNA so valuable to the survival of the species? Is it because your sperm is so fantastic, it would be a crime to deprive women of its awesome power? Jeeessuuuss.

What the hell is wrong with men and their obsession with spermatozoa? For some reason, men seem to believe that within each microscopic tadpole lies the source of their manhood, like Samson's hair. Cut it, and you become weak and effeminate (which, as we all know, is the Worst Thing Evah!). 

Get the fuck over yourself. 

"You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.  You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all part of the same compost pile."  

Maybe we should start a thread "Boyz wanting babies", or why do men want to spread their seed far and wide.

HeywoodFloyd

Maysie wrote:

Rexdale, google "Dan Savage". He says if anyone doesn't give oral, they don't deserve to receive it. He's right.

Damn straight. That goes for everything else too.

eta

Besides which, is there anything hotter or more pleasurable than a soixante neuf.

Maysie Maysie's picture

Heywood Floyd wrote:
 Besides which, is there anything hotter or more pleasurable than a soixante neuf.

Um yeah. I can think of dozens. But vive la différence. Laughing

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Papal Bull wrote:

Rexdale_Punjabi wrote:

N yo IM NOT EATING get outtaaa here. yo I know how to make girls cum but my mouth aint part of that. Fucc that

 

Wha? Why not. Females seem to 'dig' males that actually are out for her pleasure as well as his own, and besides, your tongue is a far more malleable tool than one would expect it to be. Not only can you use it to say the right things, you can use it to DO the right things...if you know what I mean.

 

I jus said I know how to make dem cum but around here manz get jumped for that shit. U dont do it still. White manz do Tongue out and you prove that. I always make dem cum 2-3 times b4 I do n they cum even when Im beating it like theres a spot Ifound it on one girl n it turnz out itz in all itz like deeper then the g-spot put ur finger der cuzz. N then theres rubbin the clit n she cud be jerkin u off. N then theres just pining it cuzz.

 

Dont get it twisted I aint a man who bus n then rolls over n goes to sleep but I dont eat it.

 

N heywoodfloyd? HI HATER Im 16 I dont look it though n ppl dont think I am based on how I look and act. so chilll

 

and stop derailing the thread.

 

Id rather get no brains then catch lead Smile (and neither will happen wear a vest, ducc under cover and there's always girls who'll do it anyway)

 

edit - really stop HATING n get bacc on topic kids.

Maysie Maysie's picture

Okay, Rexdale is right about us getting off topic and sorry for my contributions to the drift. Please continue the "Sex is fun and also, straight men stop being all weird about oral and your little wigglies" topic elsewhere.

Let's return to the topic of the OP please.

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Jingles wrote:

Quote:
no....

Why not? Is your DNA so valuable to the survival of the species? Is it because your sperm is so fantastic, it would be a crime to deprive women of its awesome power? Jeeessuuuss.

What the hell is wrong with men and their obsession with spermatozoa? For some reason, men seem to believe that within each microscopic tadpole lies the source of their manhood, like Samson's hair. Cut it, and you become weak and effeminate (which, as we all know, is the Worst Thing Evah!). 

Get the fuck over yourself. 

"You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.  You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all part of the same compost pile."  

Maybe we should start a thread "Boyz wanting babies", or why do men want to spread their seed far and wide.

 

naa I am still. Im dat nigga u never knew? my dna is the reason for the beginning of the species Tongue out

 

edit- ya still I wouldnt be a snowflake still too dark. and my seed would go farther my shit is dominant. 

 

edit - "t would be a crime to deprive women of its awesome power? Jeeessuuuss." yes it would well only dimes Im workin on gettin a niccname like sweet dicc willy Im gettin there still Tongue out

 

edit - and also attraction like many things doesnt make logical sense no body really knows why someone who's "infertile" seems less attractive to ppl but they do and thats just how it is.

Polly B Polly B's picture

Jingles wrote:

"You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.  You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all part of the same compost pile."  

 

That is one helluva observation, I like it.Cool

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Maysie wrote:

Okay, Rexdale is right about us getting off topic and sorry for my contributions to the drift. Please continue the "Sex is fun and also, straight men stop being all weird about oral and your little wigglies" topic elsewhere.

Let's return to the topic of the OP please.

it aint a str8 vs anything issue. Manz in the hood dont do it. Itz a cultural thing like go ask a man r u a eater. he'll look at u like wtf do u wanna get brucced? A comparison would be like walking up to a random guy and asking if he was gay if he wasnt. Same look like wtf do u wanna get brucced? (im not encouraging homophobia but itz ingrained n itz the 1st example that yall would get that I can think of).

 

And thats it really and if u can make them cum without eating any argument yall have is gone. Out the door.

 

End of discussion.

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Polly B wrote:

Jingles wrote:

"You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.  You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all part of the same compost pile."  

 

That is one helluva observation, I like it.Cool

except snowflakes are white so itz encouragin the perception that white is the normUndecided

remind remind's picture

Rexdale_Punjabi wrote:
naa I am still. Im dat nigga u never knew? my dna is the reason for the beginning of the species Tongue out

Give us a freakin break! :rolleyes:

Funny you have before you were 19, which is it?

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

remind wrote:

Rexdale_Punjabi wrote:
naa I am still. Im dat nigga u never knew? my dna is the reason for the beginning of the species Tongue out

Give us a freakin break! :rolleyes:

Funny you have before you were 19, which is it?

I always said I was this age lol only time otherwise I was like lets jus say im 19+ was dat meeting ting where there was gonna be drinking lol n that was jokin ting Im just like I look older anyway nobody not gonna believe that im not 19

 

break? what I do? Ima Innocent u know dont get it twisted Laughing

 

"Funny you have" funny I have what?

Lard Tunderin Jeezus Lard Tunderin Jeezus's picture

R_P, you're into an argument that you can't possibly win, here.

What's more, it's an argument you're going to be embarrassed to have made, once you get a little more experience under your belt. There's good reason for the expression "Variety is the spice of life".

And like spice, it's something you'll develop a taste for....

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Lard Tunderin Jeezus wrote:

R_P, you're into an argument that you can't possibly win, here.

What's more, it's an argument you're going to be embarrassed to have made, once you get a little more experience under your belt. There's good reason for the expression "Variety is the spice of life".

And like spice, it's something you'll develop a taste for....

manz in the hood dont eat out or some do but they keep it on the dl and dont tell nobody.

U could say how do you know every man isnt doing that? Askt he girls. Do the guys around here eat out?

 

What do u think theyll say?

 

Nobody can win the argument cuz we're arguing about dif things if you think about it cuz itz dif environments, cultures, etc

 

let it gwan

 

"R_P, you're into an argument that you can't possibly win, here."

 

my bad there was no point to this post u nailed it with cant possibly win, here.

Star Spangled C...

Rexdale_Punjabi wrote:

N yo IM NOT EATING get outtaaa here. yo I know how to make girls cum but my mouth aint part of that. Fucc that

 

You know, when a man and woman actually love and care about each other as opposed to jsut treating each other as objects for gratification, giving oral sex can actually be a very nice and intimate thing and you can actually get pleasure by seeing the pleasure that she is getting from it.

Also, in general, people who have actually brought a woman to orgasm don't feel the need to go on message boards and boast about their ability to do so.

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Star Spangled Canadian wrote:

Rexdale_Punjabi wrote:

N yo IM NOT EATING get outtaaa here. yo I know how to make girls cum but my mouth aint part of that. Fucc that

 

You know, when a man and woman actually love and care about each other as opposed to jsut treating each other as objects for gratification, giving oral sex can actually be a very nice and intimate thing and you can actually get pleasure by seeing the pleasure that she is getting from it.

Also, in general, people who have actually brought a woman to orgasm don't feel the need to go on message boards and boast about their ability to do so.

Cultural differences. What dont u understand ppl look at girlz giving head the same way itz just my generation girls giving is more accepted then manz giving it. Go bacc one and both is looked down upon.

Itz that simple

Yes I dont love No women like that.  Fucc marriage too, I jus wanna ride it like a carriage.

Lol thats what u wanted to hear? It takes 2 do it u ever think that girlz could just like to have sex too? and dont automatically want that long ass relationship? Or what u think that wrong?

Calling it out SSC.

Like, u have to bring her to orgasm I jus look at her Tongue out

U got done in cuzz like I could give a longer reply but U aint worth the time

 

 

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Anyway maysie obv tingz like a broken home, poverty, etc affect that but how far do u think the media goes in influencing that? Obv also the media targetting poor girls esp of color is dif from the one targetting rich white girls and alot of the stereotypes are internalized to the point where a girl thinks that's all she gonna be u know some manz baby mama.

And obv yea guys aint helping like lol thats crooked n u gotta be hurting to pull that i wanna have a family n I love u shit (if u dont mean it I mean). Like this shit gotta change

 

Scout

You edited your post again, your post was longer in fact. Not only are you a sexist waste of bandwidth but a liar too.

 

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U got done in cuzz like I could give a longer reply but U aint worth the time

 

 

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

Scout wrote:

You edited your post again, your post was longer in fact. Not only are you a sexist waste of bandwidth but a liar too.

 

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U got done in cuzz like I could give a longer reply but U aint worth the time

 

 

O hello again ye I decided against it im not denying that I put it up but I obv took it out I could say the same thing in fewer words.

 

And bacc on topic kids. Im sexist because I like women? or I dont eat out? Just cuz u respect women dont mean u have to kiss their ass and shit. Lastly how many women who like men who kiss their ass and act like str8 punks being overtly nice, and manipulative? A minority aint it?

Rexdale_Punjabi Rexdale_Punjabi's picture

fucc this listen This is YOUTH issues. 

 

Old ppl who are basically just chanting WHY DONT U EAT OUT WHY DONT U EAT OUT

the fact that u care less about the issue and more about where my tongue aint been at shows wus craccin

plz kindly gtfo Smile

yarg

You don't know what you're missing, and you might be in the wrong place if you don't want old white people "chanting" at you.

Michelle

Scout, if you're just dropping in to attack people having a conversation here, don't bother.  Welcome back if you want to come back, but leave off the attacks.  Thanks.

Maysie Maysie's picture

Rexdale, we are way off topic. I tried to get us back on, but as the author of the OP if you are continuing the drift then this is the thread now and you can't get mad just because people don't agree with you. That's life.

As I stated above, anyone who doesn't want to do a certain thing (or things) with their partner is welcome to not do it. Boundaries are important. However, it's completely fair that if you don't do it, you don't deserve to receive it. That's called mutuality and it's also important, especially with heterosexual partners. This has nothing to do with being a youth. Maybe it means you're not ready. We could be talking about intercourse, oral or even manual play with each other. Never mind a whole bunch of other stuff. Wink

The way that sexism comes in is that both women and men are taught from when we're young to make men's pleasure (and orgasm) the center, and the goal, of all sexual encounters. I challenge this, and I ask you to think about what it means to challenge your own, apparent, expectation of this. That's all. When sex is good between partners, it's a hell of a lot of fun, be it a hook-up, a fling, a quickie, a long term relationship or marriage. 

Oh, and we keep learning about sex throughout our lives, especially with different partners. There's no "okay I know everything there is to know" point. This also makes it really damn fun. 

Stargazer

Okay this is ridiculus. Seriously.

 

"Yes I dont love No women like that.  Fucc marriage too, I jus wanna ride it like a carriage."

 

Sorry but this is not acceptable. No one questions why this person writes so articulately one second and so horribly the next? We're being played for fools. He is drawing on every black male stereotype there is and not a word. You do know the stereotype of black men not giving women face? Well hello! He's spelt it out. How many times are we to be subjected to this shit? SCC was right, and Scout was right. You mods are going to have to decide who you want to keep - Scout, me other females, or this person who is 15, maybe 16, or 19, maybe a black man but apparently a Punjabi from the "hood". Please. This who OP is out of line.

Caissa

I agree with Stargazer and Scout. I'll add that they don't need my support. Many of Rex Pun's posts in this thread have been outrageous. How many do you want flagged?

Stargazer

Really. This is seriously out of line. Youth issues? This has FA to do with youth issues. It has to do with perpetuating a stereotype of both women and black males.

 

Mods, really, haven't we had enough of this?

oldgoat

R_P, I don't know what the context was and I'm not going back to read all of your posts just now, but the quote referred to in post #34 is way over the line.  Don't say stuff like that.

 

The opening post is appropriate and raises a valid issue for discussion in the youth forum, but things went seriously askew after that.  I'm taking into account that it went askew with a lot of help from others.  Even unexpected others.  (really Heywood, I'm going to have to rethink my perception of conservatives!)

 

To be honest I don't see this thread recovering.  As someone with some experience in dealing with young people I've had discussions on this topic, and Maysies first post is difficult to improve on.  younger girls wanting to have babies is often seen as a way out of grindingly difficult circumstances, often but not exclusively associated with poverty.  anyway, maybe it will come up again sometime but I don't think were going to get much more useful out of this thread so I'm closing it.

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