goodbye.

VanMan2000,

Please, simply write a short note saying you are O.K. and join in any discussion. We promise not to ask you any question and not to raise the subject (unless YOU raise the subject and YOU want to talk).

Please, simply write that you are OK. We will not ask you what happened, what you did or did not do.

I too once had my dark day and said Good Bye. Later, some feeling of hope, some thought about people who care about me and I wanted to go back and join. I felt however apprehensive of all the questions I would be asked, until someone e-mailed me to say "Please come back, we promise no question will be asked. The subject will not be mentioned." I went back and so it was. Nobody asked any question. No mention of the subject.

Please, VanMan2000, Write you are OK, better still, please come back: No question asked. Promise.

Lacabombi

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I debated whether to post this publicly or not, since I haven't been in touch with VanMan myself. But I have had two people tell me privately today that their private messages to VanMan have been flagged as "read by recipient". I don't know when they were read, or whether VanMan is okay, and I'm not sure whether I'm doing the right thing by saying it here. But people seem to be really worried, so I thought I'd just let everyone know that.

VanMan, if you just want to read and not respond, that's okay. As lacabombi says, it's kind of intimidating to come back after all this. I'm just glad that there is at least a slight indication that you're okay.

Be well.

Performance Anxiety, this is not the place to make it about you, or to lecture everyone on what you think is wrong with the site. Nor is it the place to speculate whether we've "lost him." If you have a complaint, do it in rabble reactions.

And if you respond to this post here, I'll ban your account. I mean it.

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I think the idea that we finished off VanMan is repugnant.

Thanks Michelle. I also like what lacabombi said.

I'm still rooting for you, VanMan 2000.

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[b]Performance Anxiety, this is not the place to make it about you, or to lecture everyone on what you think is wrong with the site. Nor is it the place to speculate whether we've "lost him." If you have a complaint, do it in rabble reactions.

And if you respond to this post here, I'll ban your account. I mean it.

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Again, I would ask that we not allow ourselves to be trolled on this thread.

Vanman, you really should not let people's comments or their belief and perspectives interfere with you calling it quits or saying good bye! They are just people with different ideas on different issues. Keep your head up and log on...............

Hey VanMan2000 please stick around and contribute.

Hey I get beat up here too just for expressing my opinions and EXPERIENCES.

Connecting with people in a big city can be very hard as I've experienced also lately.

I try to walk for half an hour to an hour everyday and this helps in many ways.

-clears my head
-exercises my body
-I get to see and meet people this way as well.

Please you are a valuable person.

Please do respond to the many people here who are asking about you.

Thanks.

It is a disturbing thread. I just looked to see if my PM to him was still in my message box. I had kept it for ages, but I guess I deleted it at some point.

Actually I'm surprised that this type of thing doesn't happen more often on cyber communities like babble. I used to work on what's called a mental health mobile crisis team, and a good part of that was dealing with people who were feeling suicidal, both in person and by phone. For what little it may be worth here, most people who indicate that they might or want to suicide actually don't, and will make use of what resources are there. In terms of this case I'm guessing we won't know.

What was interesting on this thread is how babblers of various stripes, some who may not even like each other, came together and extended themselves to Vanman.

I checked it out Makwa, but it looks like you have to register to see the discussions. I'll probably do so at some time. I was interested in the med section because it looked from the headings like someone was talking about escotalipram, which I just stopped using because the side effects were worse than any I've had on anything else.

Anyway, when I get a moment I'll register. See you over there.

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I had written to him after he wrote that post. A day later, I discovered that the post had been "read". So I think he got through the crisis without doing anything.

I've never heard from him since, so I don't know whether he's okay now. I never knew who he was to begin with, though. That's the thing about discussion forums where people are anonymous. There's no way to know how people are doing if they just stop posting.

Sigh.

Me too.   Best wishes and hope you are well, Unionist.   

I miss you Lagatta, Unionist and Epaulo. I hope you are enjoying the holiday season while staying safe. Maybe we will connect again in 2021.

Glad I needed to login. Wow, 2004. Also, what a thread! Perhaps we all have more grey or white hairs now? Or, for some of us with no longer accurate user names, some grey or white hairs? While I doubt I'll post, hopefully everyone is doing well and still fighting the good fight. :) 

Wow, welcome back Vansterdam Kid. It's been awhile.

I haven't looked in on this site in years, and logged on just for the hell of it.

Now I'm going away again.

al-Qa'bong wrote:

I haven't looked in on this site in years, and logged on just for the hell of it.

Now I'm going away again.

You're following the guidance of Marx?

(2) animal crackers. marx brothers. I must be goin' - YouTube

laine lowe wrote:

Oh wow, an al-Qa'bong appearance. Maybe some others like Time Bandit and LaGatta will show up too!

Lagatta was around in October.

That is such a tragic experience, Ryan. One never knows the sting words and reactions (i.e. laughter) can have on someone who is suffering all sorts of private hell. This kind of transgression can be seen even in grade school - that is my experience and I am shocked and ashamed as how young people including myself behaved.