Btw, Unionist, I never called myself "Mrs Jean Charest." I called myself the skdadl equivalent of "Elizabeth Rosemond Taylor Hilton Wilding Todd Fisher Burton Burton Warner Fortensky." In fact, I still do.
You can call yourself whatever you like. But here in my home, in Québec, women were treated like little pieces of shit - by men, by the government, and especially by the Church - until the Quiet Revolution. Since then, we have gone far - much farther than the rest of Canada. Google QPIP, for one of a thousand examples. Here in Québec, we have had to take [b]RADICAL[/b] steps to ensure that the hegemony of the Male Priests and Bishops shall never again prevail. That means forcing women (HORRORS!!!!!!!) to keep their own name, and not to submerge their identity into a man's - even if they plead, "Oh, really really, I want to be Mrs. So-and-So, so our kids will all have the same name - DADDY's NAME!!"
It's Stalinist, McCarthyite, and I can't remember the third thing you said. But it's ours. And we love it. Your system is good for you. Live and let live.
Likewise with secularism.