Wilf has laid it out very well, and speaks for me too in this instance. No-one like a bossy "moderator". Why is it that they never have to examine their own language and behaviour, as well?
And, pardon me, what is this crap that if a woman complains she is always right? I think if anyone raises a question about language or attitude or tone, one has a responsibility to truly consider it - and do so in all the many contexts of diversity and inequality we face in our society -- and then either accept it, or disagree with it.
But that's of either gender. And it doesn't mean they're necessarily right, either. It just means we owe them the courtesy of listening, and considering; a duty that is two-way. And of considering that there is more than one way to interpret some things that are written down, and people who have a demonstrated record of anti-racism ought to be given the frigging benefit of the doubt, instead of being given the Sanctimonious Spanish Inquisition.
It's high-time people around here stopped judging what is said based exclusively on the traits and characteristics of its source, and started to judge it more on its content. You won't shake off any of this oppression if you keep taking its existence as a given.