Kara the mini lectures from various people are all free of charge. It's just their way of showing how friendly and open they are.
What lectures K? What you mean is ignore these people who refuse to see you are right and they are wrong. I'll speak for myself. My wife said didn't see the big deal. If we assume just for argument's sake that only a "female" can unerstand, "sexism", how do you explain my wife's opinion? Is she is sexist, and who determines it? How about Jan? Who decides who is providing the "definitive" view on this. Kara could be right r wrong. I say there is something missing from this discussion. That's, MY, opinion.
People have their opinions; that's all they are. Get over it.