Here is why I keep stating that you have a problem with the biological reality of the situation, Francesca. You just put father in quotations marks! Why?
Because he's an unwilling sperm donor, nothing more. Okay, okay, he's the father in that he's the male parent. I put it in quotes for the same reason I would use the term biological father when distinguishing between a biological and adoptive dad (who I would simply refer to as the father). To me, your father is the male in your life who raises (or helps to raise) you. My problem is not with biology.
Even if he decides to not to change his name and leave teh country (as you suggested), he is still a father.
Didn't suggest this. Merely stated that it's what I would do.
Perhaps someday the child will find him after his "18 years of punishment for a drunken hump" have passed by. If the child finds him, the child will say he is their father.
Perhaps. And perhaps it will be a joyous, transcendent occasion where the child comes to understand that God wanted him to be here and the father devotes the rest of his life to women's charities.
Yes the mother has a safe and legal "opt-out". That does not mean it is easy or pleasant.
Nevertheless, nobody can say she is forced into unwanted child-bearing. Proceeding is a choice, a valid choice, and the resulting kid from that choice is certainly entitled to all we have to offer. Could we stick to the point here? I am suggesting that the father is not really a father in any meaningful sense of the word. What is the downside to having the state pick up the tab? Are you afraid there'll be a rash of unintended teenage pregnancies? I doubt very much that the prospect of child support enters into a drunken teenager's mind. We have provision in criminal law that takes the mitigating factor of youth into consideration. Shouldn't we also have such a policy in civil law?
And she can decide to keep the baby and when the baby is born, the guy is a FATHER. fact. Not a "father", like it is insane to think that drunken humps cause children.
No, if you're insisting on accurate language, then I'm entitled to do the same. Drunken humps DO cause children, children who are often unwanted by their fathers. That's a fact, too. And if she decides to abort, she certainly won't be referred to as a "mother" at the abortion clinic.
Quite a few people in this country were created that way I am sure! lol
I'm quite sure of that, too.