As for making this about me pretending to be more enlightened, I'm not the person implying that I am not influenced personally by racism, or that I get to just pick and choose what is valid about others' experience of it.
So please tell who that person is. You have set up one of your claissic strawman arguments again. Nobody is saying those things they are merely talking points that you are using to make yourself into the good guy in your narrative about how you get it when nobody else does. IMO that makes you a self indulgent white man playing at the saviour role. I personally find it rather nauseating.