There is a remarkable scene in Fahrenheit 9/11 when Lila Lipscomb talks with an anti-war activist outside the White House about the death of her 26-year-old son in Iraq. A pro-war passerby doesn’t like what she overhears and announces, “This is all staged!”

Lipscomb turns to the woman, her voice shaking with rage, and says: “My son is not a stage. He was killed in Karbala, April 2. It is not a stage. My son is dead.” Then she walks away and wails, “I need my son.”

Watching Lipscomb doubled over in pain on the White House lawn, I was reminded of other mothers who have taken the loss of their children to the seat of power and changed the fate of wars. During Argentina’s dirty war, a group of women whose children had been disappeared by the military regime gathered every Thursday in front of the presidential palace in Buenos Aires. At a time when all public protest was banned, they would walk silently in circles, wearing white headscarves and carrying photographs of their missing children.

The Mothers of the Plaza de Mayo revolutionized human-rights activism by transforming maternal grief from a cause for pity into an unstoppable political force. The generals couldn’t attack the mothers openly, so they launched fierce covert operations against their organization. But the mothers kept walking, playing a significant role in the dictatorship’s eventual collapse.

Unlike the Mothers of the Plaza de Mayo, who march together every week to this day, in Fahrenheit 9/11, Lila Lipscomb stands alone, hurling her fury at the White House. But she is not alone. Other American and British parents whose children have died in Iraq are also coming forward to condemn their governments; their moral outrage could help end the military conflict still raging in Iraq.

Recently, California resident Nadia McCaffrey defied the Bush administration by inviting news cameras to photograph the arrival of her son’s casket from Iraq. The White House has banned photography of flag-draped coffins arriving at air force bases, but because Patrick McCaffrey’s remains were flown into the Sacramento International Airport, his mother was able to invite the photographers inside. “I don’t care what [President George W. Bush] wants,” McCaffery declared, telling her local newspaper, “Enough war.”

Just as Patrick McCaffrey’s body was being laid to rest in California, another solider was killed in Iraq: 19-year-old Gordon Gentle of Glasgow.

Upon hearing the news, his mother, Rose Gentle, immediately blamed the government of Tony Blair, saying that, “My son was just a bit of meat to them, just a number . . . This is not our war, my son has died in their war over oil.”

And just as Rose Gentle was saying those words, Michael Berg happened to be visiting London to speak at an anti-war rally. Since the beheading of his 26-year-old son who had been working in Iraq as a contractor, Michael Berg has insisted that, “Nicholas Berg died for the sins of George Bush and Donald Rumsfeld.”

Asked by an Australian journalist whether such bold statements “are making the war seem fruitless,” Berg replied, “The only fruit of war is death and grief and sorrow. There is no other fruit.”

It is as if these parents have lost more than their children, they have also lost their fear, allowing them to speak with great clarity and power. This represents a dangerous challenge to the Bush administration, which likes to claim a monopoly on moral clarity. Victims of war and their families aren’t supposed to interpret their losses for themselves; they are supposed to leave that to the flags, ribbons, metals and three-gun salutes. Parents and spouses are supposed to accept their tremendous losses with stoic patriotism, never asking whether a death could have been avoided, never questioning how their loved ones are used to justify more killing.

At Patrick McCaffrey’s military funeral, Paul Harris, chaplain of the 579th Engineer Battalion, informed the mourners that, “What Patrick was doing was good and right and noble . . . There are thousands, no, millions, of Iraqis who are grateful for his sacrifice.”

Nadia McCaffrey knows better and is insisting on carrying her son’s own feelings of deep disappointment from beyond the grave. “He was so ashamed by the prisoner-abuse scandal,” McCaffrey told The Independent. “He said we had no business in Iraq and should not be there.”

Freed from the military censors who prevent soldiers from speaking their minds when they are alive, Lila Lipscomb has also shared her son’s doubts about his work in Iraq. In Fahrenheit 9/11 she reads from a letter Michael Pederson mailed home. “What in the world is wrong with George, trying to be like his dad, Bush. He got us out here for nothing whatsoever. I’m so furious right now, Mama.”

Fury is an entirely appropriate response to a system that sends young people to kill other young people in a war that never should have been waged. Yet the American right is forever trying to pathologize anger as something menacing and abnormal, dismissing war opponents as hateful and, the latest slur, “wild-eyed.” This is much harder to do when victims of wars begin to speak for themselves: No one questions the wildness in the eyes of a mother or father who has just lost a son or daughter, or the fury of a soldier who knows that he is being asked to kill and die needlessly.

Many Iraqis who have lost loved ones to foreign aggression have responded by resisting the occupation. Now, victims are starting to organize themselves inside the countries that are waging the war. First it was the September 11 Families for Peaceful Tomorrows which speaks out against any attempt by the Bush administration to use the deaths of their family members in the World Trade Center to justify further killings of civilians. Military Families Speak Out has sent delegations of veterans and parents of soldiers to Iraq, while Nadia McCaffrey is planning to form an organization of mothers who have lost children in Iraq.

U.S. elections always seem to swing on some parental demographic or other: Last time it was soccer moms, this time it is supposed to be NASCAR dads. But NASCAR car-racing champion Dale Earnhardt says that he had taken his buddies to see Fahrenheit 9/11 and that “It’s a good thing as an American to go see.” It seems as if there may be another demographic that swings this election: not soccer moms or NASCAR dads but the parents of victims of war. They don’t have the numbers to change the outcome in swing states, but they might just change something more powerful: the hearts and minds of Americans.

Naomi Klein

Naomi Klein

Naomi Klein is the award-winning author of the international bestsellers, The Shock Doctrine: The Rise of Disaster Capitalism and No Logo: Taking Aim at the Brand Bullies. She writes a regular column...